Why does Kate keep burning bridges?

Last week Kate's former Dancing With the Stars partner told a reporter that he hasn't heard from Kate since his heroic effort to turn her into a halfway respectable dancer failed miserably. This comes after months of reports that Kate wanted him fired and walked out on him numerous times (one time of which was shown in an episode). "She hasn't stayed in touch with me," Tony Dovolani said unequivocally. Another person left behind in Kate's wake.

Now we're hearing reports that the Dancing With the Stars cast is planning a reunion get-together. And Kate's not invited. Seems the cast doesn't think she deserves an invite when she never bothered to keep in touch. Add them to the laundry list of people Kate wants nothing to do with anymore: The grandparents, Jodi, Kevin, Beth, various nannies and helpers, and Jon. Heck, even the dogs.

As a celeb, it's never a good idea to burn bridges. Actually, it's usually not a good idea for anyone. You never know how these people might help you out further down the line. So why does Kate keep doing it? Some possibilities:

• Narcissism. This personality disorder, at its core, is extreme self-centerdness. Therefore, people are of no use to a narcissist unless they are feeding their self-centerdness. Once that other person wises up and no longer allows the narcissist to use them, a narcissist will discard them and move on to the next person to suck the lifeblood out of. And so on and so on. A narcissist is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends. They also lack empathy--they are unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. Therefore, estranging a person is all in a day's work to a narcissist, not thinking or realizing how heartbreaking being cut off can be for the other person (for example, Aunt Jodi.)



• Stupidity. Kate thinks she can navigate this world of publicity the way she wants to do it, not realizing to nurture and maintain your celebrity, you need the help of others. People like the DWTS contestants.


• Laziness. Kate has repeatedly been shown to be a lazy person who is waited on hand and foot and delegates the work to everyone else then not only takes credit for it all, but pretends that none of those people ever did any work at all and that most of them don't even exist. Calling, texting and emailing to maintain at least a casual friendship takes work she is not willing to do.


• Arrogance. Kate believes her own publicity. She believes she brought in all the extra viewers to DWTS and that it had nothing to do with Erin and Pam and Evan as well. She believes she is a bigger star than any of the DWTS dancers or contestants put together, and therefore, has no use for them.

Kate's last few remaining fans still waving the tattered flag will say, "How dare you assume such a thing. You don't know the reasons why she doesn't talk to these people. They could be toxic for her and the kids!" Well, maybe, if it were just a few people she has estranged. But this woman pops them left and right. Are we really to believe that all those people are toxic, and Kate is in the right? Fool me twice shame on me. And if Tony Dovolani were a toxic person, wouldn't the long list of partners he has danced with before and their big mouths said something by now? Instead we've heard nothing but good things about Tony since season one of DWTS. It's Kate who is toxic, not the other way around.

Food for thought for Kate: If your eight children are watching the way you treat people, they are also learning how they should treat people. What makes you think that when they see you react to something you don't like by estranging their grandparents, relatives, and friends, they won't grow up and do the same to you when you do something they don't like? Keep on burning those bridges, Kate.